The Gamer Kids

     I love my kids.  My little gamers or the gamer kids is what I call them because well it's the truth.   Don't get me wrong they play outside too my daughter Kori plays on a soccer team and loves it.  My son Julein plays drums and takes weekly lessons and wants to join the swim team when he gets older.  They both love to play in the backyard or swim in our pool, but really their lives revolve around video games.  Either the Xbox 360, Wii, PC, or on their tablets they love video games when they are not playing video games they watch other people play video games on YouTube.  Their goal in life is to design and develop video games together when they grow up.  Which I think is great for two reasons.
   
     1. Because that was my dream while I grew up playing my NES.  I have made games for on the PC that I drew the artwork and programmed myself that they played and really enjoyed.  I would like to see them follow in my footsteps and go farther than I ever could.

     2. Because that shows how much they mean to each other.  They want to be working on projects together even as adults.  They love spending time together so much that they can't picture their adult lives without the other one there also.

     Don't get me wrong they fight like cats and dogs their brother and sister for heaven's sake they're going to fight.  When ever they do fight it doesn't last very long and 9 times outta 10 it's about something stupid.  They're also pretty young Julein is 10 years old and Kori is 7 years old so they could still change their minds on what they want to do some day.



     However, if they do change their minds it is going to be of their own accord.  Because I believe a person should follow their dream no matter what other people tell them.  My gamer kids are going to face enough negativity and hardship from the rest of the world it is my job to be positive and believe in them.  To make sure they believe in themselves so they have the courage to do whatever it is they want to do.

     On leaving I thought I would share a couple old pictures of the gamer kids.  Above is Kori in my gryffindor snuggie playing Lego Harry Potter.  On the left is Julein playing Star Wars Clone Wars on the laptop while Daddy and sister watched.  This happens a lot even now.

     Now to be completely honest both my husband and I are gamers also.  I guess being a gamer is a hereditary trait now.  That's ok we have fun together and all it takes is a trip to Gamestop and we're set for winter actives.

He Didn't Have To Be...

I wanted to tell everyone about my husband and what an awesome dad he is.  Oops… I mean step-dad not that he is not a great dad to our daughter, but the relationship between him and my son is just amazing. Unless you were around for the very beginning you would not even know he is not my baby boys Biological Father.
When my son was less than a year old I left his Biological Father due to the abuse of both myself and my baby boy.  At this time Kevin was a friend to both me and my now ex-husband and he gave me and my baby a place to stay after the divorce.  One thing lead to another and we fell in love it was not tried and we did not do it to hurt anybody it just happened.  At this same time he fell in love with my young son while his Biological Father was out of the state and not having anything to do with him.  I will never forget the first fight he and I had we were only a couple for three months and he begged me whatever I did please do not take Juju away from him.  That was when I realized just how important my little boy was to this man and how much they needed each other in their lives.

Looking back I think it happened a little at a time I would have Juju in his highchair feeding him supper when he would walk out into the kitchen and take the spoon from me to finish feeding him so I could eat supper.  He would take a diaper out of my hand and go change the baby without being asked he just did whatever he could to help.

It was not long after that when there was a second car seat bought and placed in his Jeep so he could take Juju with him wherever he went be it the grocery store or one of his friends’ house for a play date with their kids.
By the time I was preo with our little girl they were inseparable and he was no longer anything other than Daddy to my little boy who was now 2 and talking up a storm.  I asked him once after our daughter was born if he felt any differently about Juju now that he was able to see what it was like to bond with a child right at birth.  He looked at me with tears in his eyes and said yes (My heart stopped for a minute) then he said I’m jealous I missed this time in his life. So now I just have to make sure that I work extra hard to show him how much I love him.

Well after that answer it was time to get married.

For anyone that brings up nature vs. nurture to me I point out my husband and my son.  Most of the time people that have been around the two of them together do not even know that my husband is not his Biological father.  All they see is a man that loves his little boy very much and right away thinks it has to be his son.  Well… they are right, because in his eyes this is his son.  Just because it is not by blood does not mean he is not Jujus’ Daddy.   He is nothing like his Biological Father (whom he has met a couple times at his Grandparents house) and everything like his Daddy.  They are both huge Star Wars fans and love pretty much all Sci-fi, my husband has taught Juju the fine art of Magic the Gathering, and Pokémon, and Juju hopes to be on the swim team in high school so he can beat his Daddies record.  He is a Daddies boy through and through seriously just forget about Mommy if it’s not Daddy he doesn’t care.

You know what I am ok with that.

Happy Father’s Day Honey!  


Update:

Since this was originally written three years ago many things have changed. The biggest and most important change happened this year is that my husband has finally been able to adopt Juju.
 After years of being in and out of court and his biological father showing up long enough to stop the adoption and then disappear again. This is a huge win for our family and something that both Kevin and Juju have been wanting for a long time. He is still a Daddies boy and thinks that Daddy is the greatest person ever.
We are all excited about the next chapter of our lives together and look forward to see what is in store for us next. I can say one thing for sure though. I married one heck of a good man.

Today is a very important Father's day because it is the first one where he can really say he is Juju's REAL Father. Please help me wish this wonderful man a happy Father's Day.

Love you Honey! Happy Father’s Day!